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  How Many 18-35 year old JW's have Exited the Cult in Your Family ?

  by flipper in

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  just wanted to start this to get a pulse on how many young jw's are exiting percentage wise recently in the witness organization.

  in my family i have 8 young people aged 21 through 35 .

  these are my son and two daughters and my older siblings 5 adult children.

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  I can't answer that question exactly. I'm not currently in touch with many in my JW family.

  When my mother joined, 5 of her siblings joined also. Two of the 6 of them eventually left the JWs when they were like 39 and 45.

  My sister and I and 13 of our cousins were raised as JWs. As far as I know, only 4 of the 15 total cousins remained active JWs past age 35. I was the first to leave. Those 4 also had children raised as JWs.That would be 13 people total. I'm uncertain what those children's current status is in the Borg. Although, I'm pretty sure that most of them are still affiliated with JWs. They would all be over the age of 18.

  The whole JW thing has affected our family greatly and we are not close because of it. With no get-togethers for Christmas or other holidays you never see these people. There is quite a bit of alcohol abuse, multiple divorces, major depression, a suicide, total estrangement from family, severe mental illness, and people that have never married, gotten good educations or decent jobs among this clan. How much of it I can blame on the negative JW environment is debatable but I believe it is a factor.
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  How long will I be an exJW vs a fomer JW?

  by AllTimeJeff in

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  drew sagan in a recent post (he recently graduated college) said this, something that i agree with and frankly, think about often.

  to those of you who feel that you need to "help others" in the watchtower i give you this word of caution.

  be careful, because that may simply be an excuse you are using to remain stuck in the past.

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  Good post, whatthehadas. It is like being beat across the head for my whole 15 years of being JW. It will always be there. It will never go away. It IS my upbringing.
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  How long will I be an exJW vs a fomer JW?

  by AllTimeJeff in

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  drew sagan in a recent post (he recently graduated college) said this, something that i agree with and frankly, think about often.

  to those of you who feel that you need to "help others" in the watchtower i give you this word of caution.

  be careful, because that may simply be an excuse you are using to remain stuck in the past.

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  Scarred for life

  Being a JW in my past does not dominate my thoughts either except when I come to this site. This site has helped me to clear up a lot of things in my mind and has helped me to understand some things. For the first time in my life I have found other people that understand the experiences of my childhood.
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  On your way "out" of the WT, did you experience physical syptoms?

  by whyizit in

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  i'm not a jw, nor have i ever been.

  all of the sudden she wants to spend all this time with me.

  of course, lots of what she was telling me about the "bible", didn't make sense.

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  You are not causing your friend to be sick. You are saying things that are making her THINK. She is struggling with her choice of religion and she is feeling GREAT anxiety. You are doing nothing wrong. I feel sorry for your friend.
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  My blood pressure has gone down since I quit the Borg

  by gubberningbody in

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  it used to be like 130/75 and now it's 98-102 over 65-70.. .

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  It's very toxic. No doubt about it.
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  On your way "out" of the WT, did you experience physical syptoms?

  by whyizit in

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  i'm not a jw, nor have i ever been.

  all of the sudden she wants to spend all this time with me.

  of course, lots of what she was telling me about the "bible", didn't make sense.

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  Anxiety and depression can cause ALL kinds of physical symptoms especially the ones that you describe.
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  I may have said TOO much !

  by wobble in

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  my uber-dub sister came round to ask about some family business, in the conversation she said:.

  "..........of course she will have to wait for the new system to find out that we (jw's) were right".

  she was referring to someone recently passed away who believed in a conventional christian afterlife in heaven.. i asked "do you still believe in the new system then ?

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  I'll bet it felt GREAT! Good for you for speaking your true opinions.
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  My blood pressure has gone down since I quit the Borg

  by gubberningbody in

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  it used to be like 130/75 and now it's 98-102 over 65-70.. .

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  I believe it!
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  How did 1975 effect your family? here's mine...

  by Aussie Oz in

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  i just spent a few days with my dad.

  i asked a few questions about the time when mum became a witness which i know is still, 38 years later, a painful thing for him to talk about.

  in the course of it, he also learned some stuff that he did not know about the pressures of the times.. as i expected, mum and dad have different versions of this time, and it is pretty hard to find the real truth in it and in some ways it does not matter anymore.. mums version: she first was contacted in echuca late 1960s and dad put a stop to it.

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  Yes, sense of urgency, doom and gloom is what my sister and I were raised on. There is no way this didn't have an effect on us.
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  How long will I be an exJW vs a fomer JW?

  by AllTimeJeff in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  drew sagan in a recent post (he recently graduated college) said this, something that i agree with and frankly, think about often.

  to those of you who feel that you need to "help others" in the watchtower i give you this word of caution.

  be careful, because that may simply be an excuse you are using to remain stuck in the past.

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  Scarred for life

  Jeff, I hope you will check in and post periodically. Maybe once a week or once a month. Whatever you are comfortable with. I think you help a lot of people.